Relationship Advice for Men – From a Woman

Do women seem like a puzzle? Do you wonder what on earth they are thinking? Does it seem like women say one thing but expect another? Men and women are entirely different in the ways that they think. God created us to be unique and to complement one another.

If you are looking for the woman God has chosen for you, consider the following relationship advice for men from a woman’s perspective.

Relationship Advice for Men

The internet is riddled with relationship advice for men. But what you need to attract a Christian woman is advice from a licensed counselor who happens to be a woman and can give you a glimpse into what the right woman is looking for in a Christian man.

Unlike the secular world, most Christian women want to lead a Proverbs 31 life. This means she wants to embody the type of life as seen in Proverbs 31:10-31. Of course, this may not be a literal interpretation; a woman may not want to buy a vineyard or make her clothes by hand. But the Christian woman will most likely want to be able to provide clothing and food for her family. In addition, she will probably want to make wise investments and earn and save money.

Most importantly, she will want a husband and children who will honor and bless her all the days of her life.

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. – Proverbs 31:28-31, NIV

To attract a Christian woman, be the type of man that embodies faith in Christ. The following is relationship advice for men from the perspective of a Christian woman.

Know Who You Are and the Man You Want to Be

You attract the type of person you are in most cases. This is the time to be honest with yourself. Are you someone people can depend on? Are you diligent and honest? Do you take too many shortcuts? Are you patient or short-tempered?

If you are aware of your flaws, then you can also work to fix them. Working on yourself is one of the most important tasks you will ever tackle. Jim Rohn, the entrepreneur and motivational speaker, said, “Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”

Your self-confidence will soar when you make your strengths more apparent and learn the necessary skills to overcome weaknesses. Confidence and high self-esteem are attractive.

What skills do you need to learn? What character traits do you want to strengthen? For example, maybe you need to know how to communicate better, or your procrastination is causing issues in your life. Now is the time to take a course on communication skills or find ways to tackle procrastination. Think about the man you will become once you master these skills and traits.

Be Vulnerable

Sometimes pride and ego can keep men from sharing their innermost thoughts with a woman. Yet, women feel emotionally connected to a man when they are willing to show their vulnerable side.

When you love a woman and feel secure in the relationship, you should feel safe enough to let your guard down. You should be able to express your hurts and fears without judgment. In return, when she confides in you, keep your conversation private and remain empathetic.

Being vulnerable probably does not come naturally to you. But keep an open mind and open lines of communication.

Defend Her

Although a woman wants her husband to show vulnerability, she also needs a man to defend her from others. Some men who gaslight and use women speak badly of their girlfriends or wives to make others see them in a negative light. You want to be the type of man a woman can trust.

A woman wants a husband who will stand up to others. This does not mean you pick fights but display quiet confidence. Your strength is what she needs most, not just physical but also emotional and spiritual strength. In a relationship, seldom do both people remain strong. There will be times when she needs to lean on you more. There will also be moments when you need her by your side. Honor and bless her, and be willing to stand up for the woman you love.

Understand That You Both Have Bad Days

A relationship is built on trust and understanding. When you spend a great deal of time with someone, living with them as in a marriage, you may develop pet peeves. These little aggravations are slight, but after a while may cause issues in the relationship.

When stressed, you both are bound to take out your frustrations on each other. Realize that you will have your bad days, and so will she. There will be times when you need to overlook her behavior, such as when she is frustrated and snaps at you. Give each other the necessary space, but then talk it out and apologize. Apologize when you catch yourself snapping at her. Eventually, she will feel secure in the relationship to admit when she is directing her anger and frustrations toward you.

You can communicate your displeasure with one another without being offensive or mean. You may want to ask a counselor for advice on conflict resolution and anger management if one of you seems to have a more challenging time letting things go or lashes out frequently.

Validate Her Feelings

A woman wants to feel heard and understood. Life is hectic, and there will be moments when you don’t take the time to listen to your spouse. When she is upset, you may disagree about a situation. Even if you do not understand her anger or sadness, she needs to know that you care about her feelings. Instead of dismissing her emotions, validate her feelings by actively listening and asking questions.

When a woman believes you do not care about her feelings or opinions, she will lose emotional and intellectual intimacy. These are two of the four intimacy areas that make up a marriage’s foundation. The other two areas are physical and spiritual intimacy.

Talk to your spouse. Find out what is bothering her and, if possible, allay any fears. If you cannot, then reassure her that you will walk through this challenge by her side. Sometimes just knowing that your significant other supports you is enough to propel you forward.

See How You Can Help

A woman who aims to become a Proverbs 31 woman will often take on more than she can manage, at least initially. She wants the best for herself and her family. Her schedule might appear so full that she rarely has a few minutes to herself.

Instead of complaining that she doesn’t spend enough time with you, find ways to lighten her burden. For example, maybe load the dishwasher and clean the kitchen a couple of nights a week. Start a load of laundry before watching a movie in the evening. If she has children, help them with their schoolwork.

What can you do to make life easier for her? Maybe that is volunteering to cook dinner on busy nights or offering a back massage when she seems overly stressed.

A lighter load means more time to spend with you.

Consider Counseling

Do you feel like you have some personal development to do before you are ready to date a woman? Do you want personalized relationship advice for men from a licensed counselor who will get to know your strengths and weaknesses? Contact our office today to schedule an appointment with a counselor.

It’s time to discover the man God created you to be to attract the right Christian woman for you.